Myth Busting: Guiding Parents on the Key Issues Young People Face

This blog aims to shed light on some of the main issues that young people present during counselling sessions. By addressing common misconceptions, we hope to equip you with the knowledge to better support your child in navigating these complex areas of their lives.

Bullying

• Myth: It’s a normal part of school life and everyone goes through it.
  The fact is: Bullying doesn’t happen to everyone. It’s not acceptable. And it’s not your child’s fault. If they’re struggling to open up to you about bullying, help them find another responsible adult they can talk to. 

• Myth: Online bullying isn’t as bad as bullying in real life because there’s no chance of violence.
  The fact is: The emotional impact of online bullying can stay for a lot longer. It often feels like there’s no escape because it can happen anywhere, at any time of the day. Talk to your child about staying safe online and check in with them every now and then about what platforms they’re active on. 

• Myth: Reporting bullying will make it worse.
  The fact is: Bullies rely on your child keeping it to themselves. But it’s crucial that they tell someone they trust about it. This is often the only way to make it stop.

Bullying is a serious issue with potentially long-lasting effects on a young person’s mental health. It’s important to recognise that bullying is not a normal part of growing up, and it’s certainly not something every child experiences. Whether it occurs in person or online, bullying can leave deep emotional scars. Encouraging your child to speak up and seek help is vital in stopping the behaviour and preventing further harm. Regular communication and support can make a significant difference in how your child navigates this difficult experience. 

Friendship

• Myth: It’s better to have lots of friends.
  The fact is:  Everyone’s different. Having lots of friends works for some kids. Others are happier with just one or two. It’s about quality rather than quantity. 

• Myth: Everyone should have a best mate.
  The fact is:  Some kids prefer to have acquaintances they enjoy spending time with more than best buddies. It all depends on what your child enjoys most about friendships. There’s no right or wrong here. 
• Myth: Girls and boys can’t be friends.
  The fact is:  Believing that hanging out with members of the opposite sex is really just about attraction can mean that kids often miss out on fulfilling friendships. Let them choose.

Friendship is a crucial part of growing up, but the dynamics of these relationships can vary widely from one child to another. While some children may thrive in large social circles, others may find comfort in smaller, more intimate friendships. It’s important to respect your child’s preferences when it comes to friendships, understanding that what works for one child may not work for another. Encouraging them to form meaningful connections—regardless of gender or the number of friends—will help them build strong, supportive relationships that suit their individual needs.

Parental Separation 

• Myth: Children never really get over their parents separating
  The fact is: There are lots of coping strategies your child can adopt to help them come to terms with what’s happened. And therapy is a great place to start. 

• Myth: My child will resent me forever
  The fact is: After a breakup, kids can often behave angrily – shouting, slamming doors or even being violent.  But it doesn’t mean they’ll feel like this forever. Therapy is a great way to help your child deal with big feelings so that they can go on to heal.  

• Myth : My child doesn’t seem bothered by the breakdown, so they must be alright 
  The fact is:  While this might be true for some kids, most are affected in some way. And some don’t show it. Look out for tummy upsets, problems sleeping and stopping hobbies. Regularly check in with your child about how they’re feeling. 

Family breakdowns, such as divorce or separation, are challenging for children and can lead to a range of emotional responses. It’s essential to recognize that every child processes these changes differently—some may outwardly express their distress, while others may internalize it. Therapy can be a valuable tool in helping your child navigate these feelings, providing them with coping strategies to manage their emotions. By staying attentive to subtle signs of distress and offering consistent support, you can help your child heal and move forward

Gender Identity 

• Myth: Most trans kids “grow out of it”
  The fact is:  While adolescence and puberty are periods of exploration, for many kids who identify as trans, it’s not a temporary phase. So, the earlier they can access the mental health support they may need, the better.  

• Myth: Little kids are too young to know if they’re trans or nonbinary
  The fact is:  Some children can understand their gender identity as early as age 3. Don’t dismiss your child if they bring up the subject but listen carefully to what they have to say. Some children pretend to be another gender because it’s fun. But for others, it has more meaning. 

• Myth: My child is more likely to identify as trans or nonbinary if their friends do.
  The fact is:  While trans and nonbinary kids are likely to seek the company of others who are going through the same experience, most figure out who they are regardless of how their friends identify. 

Gender identity is a deeply personal and often complex aspect of a young person’s life. For some children, understanding their gender identity begins at a very young age, and it’s important for parents to approach this topic with openness and support. Listening to your child and validating their experiences can help them feel secure and understood as they explore their identity. Early access to mental health support can also play a crucial role in helping them navigate any challenges they may face. By creating a supportive environment, you can help your child feel confident and accepted for who they are. 

By dispelling these myths and understanding the facts, you can better support your child through the challenges they may face. Whether it’s bullying, friendships, family breakdowns, or exploring gender identity, open communication and access to appropriate resources are key.